In my opinion, one of the most tragic things you can do as a believer is to not consult God before making a decision. As a child, one of the scriptures our drill team recited was Proverbs 3:5-6.

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” (NKJV)

I can hear the obligated “Ma’am!” we had to belt out after we finished. If only I knew then what I know now! (*Insert your own praise break*) I can’t count how many hardships I could have avoided.

I will be honest. Even though I consider myself to be somewhat of a mature Christian, this is something I still struggle with. It seems to be a mountain that hubby and I are continuing to go around. As of late we’re repeatedly telling each other, “You are going to learn to listen to God one day.” We know that His grace is keeping us. But how much better could things be if we humbled ourselves and accepted that we aren’t wise enough to make decisions on our own? After all, the bible does say there’s a way that seems right to a man, but in the end there’s death. (Proverbs 14:12)

This is true for every decision that a believer makes, especially when it comes to marriage. 

Deciding on who to spend your life with is a decision that shouldn’t be made without much prayer and fasting. Marriage is more than sex, a few kids, and an elaborate ceremony in an expensive gown surrounded by all of your family and friends. It’s a commitment that requires the Lord, immense love, unbelievable patience, and a never-ending supply of forgiveness. 

Here are three reasons why you should consult with God before you make the decision to get married. (There are several more that you should consider, but I didn’t want to write an entire book… Though I could…. :-))

1.) God Knows The Person Better Than You Do

You have to remember that God is our creator. Just like He created you, He also created the person you’re thinking about marrying. 

Yes, you’re in love. But those rose-tented glasses you wear so well only show you the good side of your perceived Mr. or Mrs. Right. While you see the good, God sees the good as well as the areas that are especially graced just for them—and the areas you may not be able to live peacefully with. He knows all of their bad habits, their shortcomings, and their intentions. He knows who He can trust with your heart. Remember, the slickest conman can fool some people sometimes, but he can never fool God. Neither can the person pursuing you. 

2.) God Knows YOU Better Than You Do

If you’ve ever been around children, you know they often ask for things they aren’t able to handle. Whether it’s touching a lit flame, going outside with no jacket on, or eating too much candy, you often have to deny their eager requests. They will pout, they will whine, and they will even cry, but you stand firm in your decision because you know what’s best for them. 

God is the same way. In His wisdom, He denies us things because He knows they won’t be good for us. You may think you’re ready for marriage, but God knows the calling and grace that He placed on both of your lives. Marriage may not be what’s best for you. The house with a picked fence and two and a half kids may seem nice, but being an adult doesn’t mean you’re able to handle the stress of having a family. God could be calling you to live as a single Christian. Seek Him. He will let you know. 

3.) God Intended Marriage To Be Permanent

Yes, God allows divorce, but it was not His intent when He created it. (Matthew 19:8). You shouldn’t enter your marriage with divorce being the solution to turbulent times. It’s intended to last a lifetime. Since you trust God with your life, trust Him with every aspect of it. That includes your marriage. Why not let Him lead from the very beginning, and ask Him if the person you’re considering is one that He approves of?